… And we’re back

I apologize for my impromptu and unannounced hiatus from the blog. It wasn’t planned but born of too much to do in too little time. So many people sent me messages or told me in person how much they like my blog and that really meant a lot to me. So I’m back.

And that brings me to the subject of today’s blog: our almighty busy-ness.

First, let me brag: the show I work on, The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, won a Critics’ Choice Award yesterday. Sure, we tied with Hoarders from A&E and no doubt they’re going to keep those accolades, but it’s pretty awesome to win an award, especially on a Monday afternoon. If you’re into that sort of thing, you can watch the ceremony on Reelz Channel (wait, where now?) on Wednesday, June 22.

Actually, the Housewives are an example of what I want to talk about today. If you watched Season 1 then you know that the women all make a point of making sure everyone knows how busy they are. In fact, a bit of a brouhaha erupted when one housewife, Camille Grammer, declared herself to be 30% busier than the other women in some sort of mathematical calculation that will forever remain a mystery.

No one wants to be considered idle, let alone ‘idle rich’, or undeserving of their opulent wealth. Our society bestows value and importance on people based on how few hours they have in a day to do anything for themselves. And in the last year I have found myself increasingly ‘important’ and married to a super-‘important’ man and I can’t say it’s really a good thing.

So here we are, locked into the rat race, chasing that increasingly elusive dollar hour after hour and thinking we’re a big cheese because we believed the hype and now we exist in a self-imposed land of endless sleep deprivation and a never-shrinking to-do list.

I don’t mean to sound bitter. Things are actually good. I have a great job as a story producer on a hit show, I’m a grad student learning something incredibly amazing and helpful to humanity and an actor, and a writer, and a cat owner, and… I mean, really. Sometimes it’s a big deal if I remember to brush my teeth at the end of the day.

I have to say, though, that important as I obviously am, I am missing out on those quiet, introspective and all important meditative moments in life. I don’t have time for them. I’m lucky I ever see any of my friends at all. My husband is sometimes lucky if he gets to see my smiling face for a waking hour a day.

And if I want to get any of that new-fangled ‘exercise’ I have to get up at 5:00 a.m., often after four or five hours of sleep. Some days I fantasize about my bed. I imagine myself laying in it, sleeping. It’s pretty hot.

I’m always looking for ways to simplify, to bring it down a notch and when I do that, I find subtle and consistent resistance. If I want to stay home and spend a Sunday on my couch I am somehow less than everyone else. I think I’m just less busy, but really it’s just less than, apparently.

The point is, folks, WHAT THE HEY-NOW ARE WE DOING TO OURSELVES? How did we come to sell ourselves into a form of indentured servitude to our social and corporate masters in exchange for an iPhone and some hot shoes? Keeping up with ourselves has become a Herculean task and we’re but mere mortals hopped up on caffeine and determination.

I’d like to forge a society where we relax and enjoy our lives with a bit less stress and get-out-there and get ’em attitude. More of a ‘let’s all share the land’-ness, with lovely afternoon naps. I’m going to go ask Spain how that’s working out for them. Oh, wait…

Well, I don’t have an answer. Cuz if I did I’d have had a lot more time to write this blog. But until we can squeeze answer hunting into our busy schedules, I hope we can all remember to take deep breaths, notice the world around us and appreciate the moments so our lives don’t pass us by.


5 comments on “… And we’re back

  1. OMMMM…just remember to breathe.
    Good to see the blog is back. 🙂

  2. Yay!!!!! You’re back!!!!!

  3. Love this entry, Zena. I feel the same way more and more lately. A great episode of my favorite show of all time, “The Andy Griffith Show”, features a guest preacher whose message to the townsfolk is, “Slow down. What’s your hurry?” Of course, the entire cast of characters spends the whole episode trying to organize a last-minute concert in the park. My roundabout point is that I cherish Sunday afternoons on my couch (with a cat next to me, no doubt!). They rejuvenate me after a hectic week. 🙂

  4. And life goes roaring by ,,we all need time to relax and smell the flowers,play with the cat,perchance to have a nap,,good blog cuz

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