Sunday afternoon I came home from a long afternoon in the sun and crashed on the couch with a little TV. You, Me and Dupree was on TBS, home of programming that is supposed to be Very Funny.
I hadn’t seen this movie because I generally avoid romantic comedies. Sure, I know I’m a woman and I’m supposed to like them because I am their target demographic. In my opinion they are usually too full of cliches, stereotypes and unimaginative plots to have room left over for any kind of interesting or original story.
But I’m not always right and so I’m always willing to check something out when its free on TV.
Unfortunately You, Me and Dupree was exactly what I expected. The movie sets up early on that women are the bosses of men and men are whiny little boys. Seth Rogen, who I think is otherwise great, plays a simpering husband who’s allowed to spend only one hour out with the guys and has to hide what he’s been doing while with them. He cowers in fear at the thought of his wife’s wrath.
Matt Dillon, newly married to Kate Hudson, is surprised by this turn of events (aren’t they supposed to have been friends for a long time? How does he not know his friend’s deal?) and can’t believe the guy’s life is so rough. Seth tells him to just wait.
Not long after that Matt throws an impromptu football party and his living room gets a little trashed. When Kate comes home Matt has a guilty little boy face and all the grown men in his living room are cowering in fear in his living room until they can scamper for the door.
Here’s my problem with this situation:
None of the characters are 3 dimensional, another problem I have with most romantic comedies. Do they think that women can’t possibly follow a story in which characters are real and complex people? I think the opposite is true. The damage comes when a) women go and see these movies, thus fooling narrow thinking studio executives into believing we like stupid shit and b) when women who don’t know better buy into characterizations like Kate Hudson’s and think that this is how women should behave.
If women get it into their heads that this is how we should act in relationships with men then we will get what we are asking for: men who act like little boys. A man who acts like a little boy is not an equal partner and you will not find yourself part of a fulfilling relationship. Its the opposite of a relationship in which a man controls a woman and neither example is true of the relationships of myself, my friends and loved ones nor are those the relationships that anyone should aspire to.
So that’s my diatribe on romantic comedies.
I would like to say to dear Kate Hudson, though, that I am deeply disappointed. She’s a great actress and has a fantastic flair for comedy and she throws it away on characters and movies that are not only beneath her but which set a horrible example for her fellow women.
I think that one of the reasons so many women adore Angelina Jolie and the majority of men would give up one of their nuts to touch her is because she would never play a shrew. She knows that a good movie character is someone we can identify with or who we aspire to be and no one identifies themselves as a controlling shrew and no one aspires to be one.
I hope you will share your opinion on romantic comedies, Kate Hudson or film in general.
I also hope Kate Hudson and Matthew McConaughey never make a movie together again.